Hello my lovelies and welcome back to my little corner. I am doing well and I hope everyone is still safe and healthy during these difficult times. Today we’re going to talk about what it’s like to be a good/nice person and we’re going to do a double approach on this topic. We’re going to talk about the benefits/advantages of being nice to others but also the inconveniences that come with it. This subject was a request from a friend and I hope that you guys will enjoy it and send me feedbacks.
“Everyone can be kind once in a while. However, it takes a special grace to be kind always”.- Pastor Gregory Toussaint
During these past months, I’ve noticed that nowadays on social media, being a bully is the newest trend. People are attacking others for likes and retweets. They are very judgmental and always quick to assume things even when they don’t know the person they’re interacting with. The worst part is, some do it only to be accepted into a certain group of friends and it’s truly disgusting.
Being nice means that you’re always polite and kind to people. It also implies that you’re a very open person and very altruist. You don’t necessarily need to know or like someone to be polite. All my life my friends have always had this problem with me. They always complained about how I’m too nice to people. Hence why today I’m going to share my experience while giving you some advices.
The Pros
Why you should always aspire to be kind regardless
1. Feeling good . Being a nice person makes you feel good. When you’re a nice person you’re always ready to help and helping others brings you a feeling of peace and happiness. When you’re kind to someone you make them happy and their happiness is sometimes contagious. In 2010, a study at Harvard Business School revealed that people who are altruistic were the happiest overall. Also according to science, kindness has effects on the brain which is why it makes us feel good about ourselves. Acts of kindness can release hormones that contribute to your mood and overall wellbeing (Source: The Science of kindness, Cedars-Sinai Staff, published on feb 13th, 2019).
2. Support. When you’re nice to people, they will remember you. I remember one time a girl tried to contact me. When we started talking, she asked me if I remembered her. Sadly I didn’t . She then told me that in 9th grade, we took our official exams at the same place. She said I was really nice to her and we shared our food during breaks, which is why she remembered my name. People will always remember your act of kindness towards them and even if you don’t want to have more friends you’ll always have people ready to support you and help you.
3. Self confidence. Kindness can boost your self confidence. Like I’d said earlier, being nice makes you feel good about yourself. When you’re nice, people like you and it makes you realize your self worth. I’m not saying that your happiness depends on others but when people appreciate you for something you’ve done for them, it helps you realize your qualities and strengths.
4. Connections. Kindness builds connections and opens doors. For example, a few months ago I went to a meeting at an embassy. Since I had gotten there early and I was standing on a pair of heels, someone was kind enough to make me go through the security guards and find a chair to sit while waiting. A few mns later, this Indian entrepreneur came to sit next to me. Apparently he had a meeting too. After a while, he proceeded to present himself and we started talking. He asked me a lot of questions about investing in Haiti and was shocked about how polite I was to him. After a while, they called my name cause my meeting was about to start but I couldn’t get his business card since we had to leave our personal items outside . But on another occasion I’d probably find a great working opportunity and all that because I was open and kind enough to talk to the man.
5. Karma. I strongly believe that what goes around always comes back around. My parents taught my siblings and I to be kind to people because whatever you do on earth whether it’s good or bad you’re gonna see the results before you leave this world. Kindness comes back around. If you’re kind to people, kindness is what you’ll get in return. If you’re mean well then…. good luck. It’s also one of the reasons why I think we shouldn’t hold grudges (although I do). Because at the end of the day, you never know who’s going to save you from a bad situation in the future.
Although kindness brings happiness, it can also bring so much sadness, regrets and anger.
The Cons
1. Disappointment. When you’re a nice person you always expect the same energy back. Most of the times we don’t receive kindness in return and it’s really disappointing. We tend to think highly of people. We often think everyone is as nice as us and this idea that we’ve created in our heads in sometimes just a big illusion.
2. Misunderstanding. The first thing that comes to someone’s mind when they realize how kind you are is that you’re a very naïve person. You’re often misunderstood and it’s heartbreaking truly. If you give off the impression that you’re kind, then everyone think that they can easily get anything out of you because in their minds, you don’t know how to say no.
3. Overthinking. This is one of the most challenging things about being nice. You’re always overthinking because somehow, someway in your mind, you think everyone is as nice as you. Nice people tend to put others before themselves and no matter how many times they’ve been let down, they still do it.
At the end of the day, I think it’s really important to always remain kind no matter what people think. Although there are a few disadvantages of being “too” kind, the happiness it brings should be the only motivation. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be petty; a little pettiness is good sometimes 😂but don’t let what other people think change your attitude and your way to see things. People will always try to bring you down because you’re nice. You should always keep in mind that your kindness inspire others. Kindness makes us beautiful. The world is such a mean place. Everyone is so mean and cruel but there are still a few people who needs to know that some people care. A smile can make so much difference in someone’s life. So keep being you, keep spreading positivity and love wherever you go. Dr David Hamilton describes kindness like a domino effect. When multiples dominoes are aligned, if you push one, then the others will fall too like a chain reaction. It’s the same for kindness, when you are kind to one person, you inspire him/her to be kind to another one and it goes on and on. Don’t hesitate to be kind. With kindness, the world would certainly be a better place.
That’s it for today guys. I really hope you guys enjoyed and learned a few things from this article. Until we meet again, stay safe and be blessed, always!!! I really do appreciate you guys and thank you for your unconditional support💕. Especially Sally, I will give you cupcakes soon 😂.
