Hello everyone and welcome back to Karo’s little corner. I hope everyone is doing better than I, as I am publishing today with a heavy heart. Don’t forget to like and share my articles on all socials if you enjoy reading them.
My blog is now dedicated to my uncle, my rock, my best friend whom I lost on June 13th. Another big blow for my family and a hard pill to swallow. May your soul rest in eternal peace and keep watching me from above Papigo. I love you always❤ .
Before I get to today’s topic, I wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you who have been supporting me non stop. Thank you to my friends and family who have shared and posted my articles on their socials, without me asking, to my parents’ friends that always send me feedbacks, I am grateful for you, your support is truly appreciated.
Now, before we begin, think about this : How many times have you let yourself be consumed by anger? How many times have you made a drastic decision while you were angry? How have those situations affected you? How many of those decisions do you regret today? How do you think you could have handled the situation in a much better and calmer way?
I am doing this little exercise because lately, I have been thinking about how often we let anger take control of us and we don’t realize how much how words and actions hurt us and hurt others. There is an infinite reasons why one could get angry, and we all manifest it differently. For some people being angry means talking loudly, others curse, others break things… however we choose to manifest it, we need to agree that anger blinds us and it can easily destroy us, whether it’s physically, mentally or emotionally.
Here are some suggestions for dealing with anger:
- No matter what you do, don’t make a decision. When we’re angry, we don’t think or act rationally. It becomes challenging to control or manage our thoughts process. Given the intense nature of anger, there is often a strong inclination to hastily make decisions as a means of numbing the pain and breaking free from its grip.
- Take a few minutes to breathe. In the midst of an anger-fueled outburst, we have little to no control over the way we choose to express ourselves. As the conversation becomes heated, we will be tempted to let angry words fly by. That’s why it is important to close our mouth for a few minutes and take some time to breathe and collect our thoughts. We cannot take back the words that come out of our mouths. Once words are spoken, they cannot be retracted. Even if the other person decides to forgive us, the impact of our words can linger and leave lasting emotional wounds.
- Wait until you’re calm to talk about it. It’s important to talk about the things that trigger us, but we need to know that there is a place and time to do so. Don’t bottle up your emotions, if something made you angry, you need to address it in order to understand why you were triggered. Once you’re calm, take a few minutes to process the event. What made you angry? What did you say when you were angry? Did you hurt someone else in the process? How could have handle it in a much better way? When you identify those reasons, complete that sentence : “I was upset because…”
- Find a solution. The most effective way to deal with a mistake is to learn from it so it does not happen again. Once you’ve taken the time to think about what happened, you need to find a way to move past it. If you were angry at someone, will you forgive them? will you try to fix thing with them? Will you cut ties with them ? Look for a resolution so the same thing doesn’t happen again.
Failing to effectively manage anger can lead to a variety of consequences : damaging relationships, causing health issues, impacting self-esteem, and more… Experiencing anger is a natural human response, as far as I am concerned, there is not something we can do to prevent us for getting mad over things that bothers us. It’s okay to be angry, but what is not okay is the unhealthy ways that we choose to express our emotions. Managing your anger does not imply the elimination of anger altogether, it simply means learning how to express it in healthy ways. There are multiple ways you can handle anger, this article provides a few strategies, and it is my hope that you can recall and apply them when confronted with anger in the future.
That’s all I have for today! Until we meet again, stay safe and be blessed… always!!!